Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Who was I kidding?

I promised myself when I started this blog I would be honest and real, so here I go (bear with me). The baby will be here in 13 days (max). I've spent so much time preparing in every way for the birth; at least all the ways I've known how. Until a few days ago I would have said that I was prepared, a "cool cucumber," ready to meet my little girl! Who was I kidding!

I've held off writing this post hoping these frantic feelings would pass and I would have something positive to say, but that doesn't seem to be happening. To be completely honest, I am "freaking out." Deep down I know these feelings will pass, hopefully before the birth. I thought I was ready. Right now I would do anything to freeze time. I would be willing to stay pregnant forever to keep my little girl safe, to keep her heart from straining, and keep her from going through any struggles and pain. I'm really having a hard time with the unknown. So many things could go right.....or very wrong. Here is a list of some of my many worries. Hopefully writing them out will prove to be therapeutic...
  • The her heart ready to beat on its own, will she require a lengthy NICU stay? Am I prepared for her to be in the NICU? After delivery the boys never left my side. How do you deal with your baby being sick in another part of the hospital while you are in recovery from a C-section. And then there's the C-section, I haven't even thought about that surgery.
  • Feeding...will I be able to nurse her. Will she be strong enough? I've done much reading on breastfeeding a Ds baby with a heart defect. I hope my knowledge will help. I just pray we can avoid all feeding tubes.
  • The little boys! They are soooo excited about their sister's arrival. I hope it can be as normal as possible. We will be delivering at a nearby hospital 45 minutes from home. The boys will visit often but it will be a difficult time for them. I will stay with Kaitlyn until she can come home, hopefully it will be soon after delivery.
  • And then there's the normal lists, many to-do lists. My energy has plummeted and there is still so much to do. (sigh)

Recently I read a post by Adrienne from Our Unexpected Journey. Her blog has been, as well as many others, such a help to me. She too talks of a "What If" list days before Bennett arrived. It was nice to know I'm not alone. She recommended a book called "Calm my Anxious Heart," by Linda Dillow. I plan on getting the book soon. I am struggling with turning all the unknowns over to God. Hopefully the book will help!

Thank you to everyone for all of your love and support. I know my positive outlook will return soon. God has taken good care of me over the recent months and I'm humbled to know that He will continue to do so.

Proverbs 3: 5-6

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.

Saturday, July 11, 2009

The countdown continues...

Time is going by so fast. Kaitlyn will be here in 23 short days. I am filled with many emotions, primarily excitement!

The 4th of July came and went. My parents were here visiting, we had a nice time...cook-outs, swimming, arts and crafts fair, and fireworks. They even found time to squeeze in Chuck E Cheese for the boys. We save that special treat for visits with the grandparents (smile).

I had two doctors appointments this last week. One was a routine OB appointment, everything went well. That was the first of my now weekly visits. I also had another ultrasound with the high risk OB. I've been going every two weeks. That appt. also went well. They've been monitoring the blood flow in the umbilical cord, the fluid levels, and her growth. All checked out very well. Her weight is estimated at 5lbs 7oz. She gained almost another pound in 2 weeks. She is measuring at gestation! We couldn't be happier.

Other than that things are quiet. We're trying to make summer memories with the boys before their sister's arrival. I'm "nesting" trying to get everything ready, and as long as she doesn't arrive early I think we'll get everything done. Blair's sister and her family are coming to visit this next weekend. The boys always have a great time with their cousins, it should be a FUN time! We can't wait!

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Thank you!

Thank you to everyone for all your kind words, love and support! The Ds blogging community is amazing. Your blogs have become a great sense of comfort to me in the last weeks. I had become so frustrated and overwhelmed with the negative medical books I had been reading. All the questions I had pertained to living life. I found answers to my questions and much more on blogger. For the first time I was able to hear about the positive side to Ds. At the doctors office you tend to not hear much in the way of positive. I had read on someones site that what was really needed was a Ds parent advocate beside the medical professional when speaking to a new family with Ds. That is so true!

Again thank you for sharing your lives!